10 Most Common Reasons Why Couples Split Up

Keith Sanford's 2015 research found that withdrawal during arguments is problematic for relationships, leading to lower satisfaction and apathy.

You withdraw during arguments

Clear communication and alignment on core values, lifestyle choices, and future plans are essential to prevent relationship-ending dealbreakers.

You don't agree on big-picture decisions

Unsupportive partners expect perfection and blame their significant other for their mistakes instead of supporting and understanding them.

You hold your partner to unrealistic standards

Ignoring relationship issues out of fear of being alone is a common mistake. This strategy backfires, as all conflicts eventually surface and become unsolvable.

You're afraid of being alone

In relationships, assuming your partner can read your mind is a common mistake. Over time, lazy or apprehensive communication can lead to silence and division.

You rely on body language to convey your feelings

Sarcastic remarks might sometimes be passive-aggressive. A few innocuous jokes are fine, but sharp quips could indicate trouble.

Sarcastic comments

"Comparison is the thief of joy," say Behrendt and Ruotola. "Don't envy others' relationships. The grass is greener where you water it and no relationship is perfect on Instagram."

You compare your relationship to everyone else's

Compromising goes beyond choosing a restaurant. Conflicts need relationship sacrifice. A failing relationship may blame and victimize one partner.

You play the blame game in arguments

Pretending to fix a marriage dispute worsens it. "Holding resentment is the quickest way to destroy love," explains psychologist Tina Tessina, PhD. 

You don't forgive or forget

Have you cried in wrath while your partner didn't? This may indicate relationship trouble. Meta-emotions—a couple's feelings about emotions—must match.

You don't express your emotions similarly

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